I practice in Hamble close to Junction 8 on the M27: convenient for Portsmouth, Southampton, Whiteley, Park Gate, Locks Heath, Botley, Hedge End, and surrounding area;
CONFIDENTIALITY: I am bound by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy Ethical Framework for Good Practice and the Professional Conduct Procedure: what you say in counselling, is strictly confidential, apart from when you intend to harm yourself or others.
What happens in the 1st Session?
The 1st Session is for us both to decide whether I can be of help to you. At this stage I won’t take many details, this appointment is about us meeting. I believe that for you to gain the most from therapy it is important to find the right person for you to work with.
How often will I/we need to meet?
This will be decided between us. If you have a specific issue we might work with a shorter contract. If you are looking for long-term therapeutic work we would work with a more open ended agreement. Again this is an area we would look at together.
Endings are Important….
Ending counselling may bring up memories of other endings in your life that have been difficult or painful. When you start to think about ending it is important that you mention this to me, so that I can help you work towards it. An ending allows time to review what has changed, to express any disappointments and to look forward to the future.
My Ways of Working Using:
Empathic Understanding: the ability to understand the client’s internal, subjective world as they see it; and expressed through active listening and appropriate responding. I would check out that I understand the feeling and content, which the client is trying to communicate. Demonstrating empathy for another person means I can be emotionally close to that person yet I remain separate with a clear sense of our own identity.
Congruence: I show realness, I want my responses to consistently match client’s inner feelings. Being aware of my feelings towards another is one aspect of congruence and has the ability to reveal ourselves as people. Often it takes courage to reveal our feelings and ourselves. Congruence is a lifelong process and does not happen overnight.
Unconditional Positive Regard: deeply valuing the client as a human being, total acceptance, being non-judgemental and warm. This refers to my deep and genuine caring for the client. I always try to be very careful to maintain a positive attitude to the client.
I am practicing the Gerard Egan’s 3 stage problem solving mode. Taking action, exploring and understanding with a mild challenging approach.